Healing addiction through connection

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In his TED talk “Everything You Think You Know About Addiction is Wrong” Johann Hari proposes that rather than punishing addicts, as per the War on Drugs, we should extend love, understanding, and empathy;

”The opposite of addiction is not sobriety,” he says, “it is connection”.

What ‘Rat Park’ can Teach us about Ourselves

In the 70’s, scientist Bruce Alexander conducted experiments on rats. Quite simply, the caged rats had the opportunity to either drink pure water or to drink water that had been laced with heroin. The rats in the cage uniformly chose the heroin water over the pure water.

Rather than leaving the experiment at that, Alexander had the interest and empathy to wonder if the results would have been different if the rats’ environment was less punishing. It made sense that rats isolated and locked in a cage with no outlet or stimulation would get high given the opportunity.

Alexander conducted the experiment again, but this time he created a Rat Park. The cage in which he housed the rats was 200 times larger than a typical isolation cage, with wheels and coloured balls to play with, plenty of food to eat, and spaces for mating, and raising litters. Rather than the rats being housed in isolation, he put 20 rats – both male and female- into the cage. Under these revised circumstances, Alexander recreated the old experiment using one bottle of pure water and one bottle of heroin-laced water. In The Rat Park, the rats ignored the heroin and enjoyed a ‘happy’ rat life of eating, playing, fighting and mating.

This study concluded that when provided with the opportunity to connect socially and to experience stimulation…the propensity for addiction vanished, even for those who had previously been addicted in the isolated heroin cages.

Human beings are actually not that different from rats, which are often the animal of choice for behavioral experiments because they, like us, are social creatures. John Bowlby studied the relationship styles of small children and found that young children flourish when given secure attachment figures. He concluded that children are abler to grow into effective and happy adults having been raised by loving and reliable caregivers. If the ability to connect with others is impaired, and people are unable to participate in a human equivalent of The Rat Park they become more at risk for addiction. So how can we lower the likelihood of becoming trapped in addiction?


1.    Choose Change

If you feel lonely you are certainly not alone. Addicts often report of a sense of loneliness, and a sense of being inherently different, and thus, unable to fit in with peers. Using or engaging with addictive behaviour initially provides a sense of community or some. However, tragically, the relationships formed within an addictive context can often perpetuate and deepen isolation.

But we can choose to change. Though it may be challenging, it is eminently possible to learn and practice connecting with others, and we can heighten our awareness of when we have the opportunity to connect. Through mindfulness we can learn to savour moments of connection and really dwell in the shared moments of positive connection we find through the day.


2.    Get Connected

Perhaps one of the most tangible feeling of love occurs between babies and their caregivers, as they gaze into each other’s eyes and mirror sounds and expressions – even mirroring the very emotions that we feel. The love I am talking about here is obviously not a narrow, perhaps romantic, definition of love. Love is broad, and if half of the population are single or widowed, this does not mean that they are in a world that is empty of love.

Connection and love can be found in all kinds of moments, with friends, even with strangers. Try to practice mindfulness throughout the day notice the connection in ordinary moments like a smile shared at the checkout or in eye contact held with a friend. We can get better at connecting with others! We can ”work out’ our ability to feel positively in relations to others and develop a more open and loving style of relating to ourselves and others.

 

3.    Keep Practicing

Rats understand innately what to do in order to connect with each other. Even when addicted, once in The Rat Park, rats get on with life without the need for reeducation or any kind of rat therapy.  We are unlike rats in that respect, for us some psychological or spiritual work is often needed to heal wounds of disconnection.

The science of neural plasticity shows that our experience, particularly repeated experience, impacts brain functioning. This can work to our benefit, in terms of developing new ways of being, whilst something might seem alien and difficult at first, it will become easier and easier with practice.

Grass roots movements have long known the need for fellowship, hence the existence of ‘interpersonal group therapy’ and 12 Step meetings.

“The therapeutic value”, says the basic text of Narcotics Anonymous, “of one addict helping another is without parallel.”

 

Connection of friends

The way forward

Social bonds give us meaning and a sense of purpose.  When we acknowledge the kindness of others and create healthy, reciprocal, and loving relationships, we experience gratitude. In fact, one type of positive experience grows our ability to find more. Over time, we broaden and build, as Barbara Fredrickson puts it, our capacity to feel a whole spectrum of positive emotions.

It is not just academics and professionals that have recognised the healing power of community and connection. Those who identify as process addicts (gambling, food, sex, etc.) have successfully adapted the anonymous fellowship approach, too. There is now a fellowship for almost any addictive behaviour you could think of. This broader definition of addiction helps us to further understand addiction as a neurological illness that intersects with the social, political, economic and cultural influences that create an environment primed for addiction.

In his TED Talk, Johann Hari cites how Portugal has focused its efforts on helping addicts connect with society. In Portugal, social services ensure that addicts have work through government assisted programs, which funds half of that person’s salary for a year. The system provides work as a reason for getting up in the morning, a sense of being part of and the opportunity to reintegrate back into society. This is done so that the former addict can have a chance of living with a sense of meaning, purpose, and connection. As a result of their approach:

  • Drug use is down. 

  • Drug use among adolescents is down.

  • Drug related deaths and other drug related harms are down. 

  • Prison overcrowding is down. 

  • Creating connection rather than punishment has helped create a better society.

Hari coined it aptly when he said ‘Sobriety is not the opposite of addiction, connection is.’ If people can grow their capacity for experiencing connection, recovery is possible.

 

About the writer: Zoe Southcott MA, MNCSAccred, PsychCounDip. Zoe Southcott is a writer and therapist, working in Oxford UK. For more information please visit www.southcottpsychotherapy.co.uk 

Zoe Southcott

MA Women's Studies BA English: Creative Writing and Critical Practice. (First Class) PsychCounDip